Ok girls, Randy has asked us to comment and share one practical tip that helps us in our relationship with our spouse. Here's mine...my hubby is a neat freak and I'm not...so I try to have the house straight when he gets home so that he can sit down and relax for a few minutes. If the house is chaotic, he feels like he needs to straighten it up. So, out of my love for him (not because I enjoy it) I try my best to have some sort of order in the house when he gets home. It takes him 30 minutes to get home from work, so when he calls me to tell me he's on his way...I kick it into high gear! It's your turn to share. Be sure and check back and read comments to see what everyone else is saying....
Julie
our fearless leaders
7 comments:
In my past life (before submission) I knew how to work my mouth and neck simultaneously like a professional. It was a habit to speak and then think even in heated discussions (intense fellowship). With maturity and submission I have totally relaxed my dominant personality that I was born with and learned to acknowledge the established rule in my house "the cooing off period". The cooling off period has minimized our intense fellowship to almost zero between me and my spouse.
THANKS. As trivial as that may sound to everyone else...it sure does make me feel good! (I'm sick...I know it!) Love you, dear!
One of the major things I've learned in our almost 37 years is not to nag. It is so easy to do, but it is so unattractive. And it usually has the opposite effect that we want. I have learned instead to be creative-like several years ago I had a book that I wanted Randy to read with me and we discuss it together. I just mentioned it once, but nothing happened. So I decided to leave it on his bedside table. He began to read it! The book was so powerful and the Holy Spirit did such a work that it has made an avid reader out of him. Now he reads more than I do-at least a book a month. I've used this subtle technique in other areas as well with great results. This has become one of our common interests that we share and do together.
Come on girls, you can do this.
Under "choose an identity" click on other, then just type your first name and type in your comment. Then scroll down to publish your comment. Let's see what we can all learn from each other. This is what the body of Christ is about!
This is developing authentic relationships which is one of our core values at CHBC.
I will probably always have to work on this one... but mine is to listen with my ears, not my mouth. Sounds wierd, I know. My friends and I communicate by sharing every detail, asking lots of questions along the way to clarify, maybe even going off on another related subject (rabbit trail) and then coming back to what we were discussing... My husband doesn't communicate that way. He just wants to get to the point of the conversation quickly, then he will go back and fill in any gaps. I have to remember not to interrupt, just listen. Also to stop and look at him while he is talking instead of doing three other things at the same time. PS Julie thanks for setting up this blog!
Even though my husband is not a neat freak, I am. I feel that it shows him that he is important to me by giving him a clean house to come home to and being able to find what he needs without having to ask. The few times he has had to ask, I could tell he felt a little neglected because I had put him on the "back burner". I try to teach my girls how important this is because their dad works hard everyday to provide for us and this is the least we can do.
"Helps us in our relationship with our spouse"
The number one thing for me, I think, is Robert and I praying together at night before we go to sleep. I think we started this sometime in our first year of marriage and before you accuse me of coming up with a good "Sunday School" answer let me share with you that these are not super deep conversations with the Lord. Usually they just cover the highlights of what is going on with us and maybe some major prayer concerns. But the thing that I have learned is that it is not the words we say each night, it is more about making sure Robert, myself and God are all on the same page. Have you ever tried praying WITH your husband when you would rather yell at him? Yeah, kind of hard to do. But it is in those moments when I wish I could just fake falling asleep and avoid the situation that God really works on your heart. I guess you could say that prayer not only helps us keep short accounts with God but also each other.
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